I'm looking for a game that might not exist
I want a game that is like The Sims, but differs in a few ways, and I've given up on trying to mod the Sims to make it accommodate, because the Sims seems to be designed to specifically prevent these features:
1. I want full, really full, autonomy. Including Sims initiating and fully operating romances on their own. In The Sims, I have to either start the romance, or get that first woohoo going. I don't want this to be once in a lifetime, but common enough to feel "normal." Also, I want sims picking their own jobs.
2. Other sims should have their lives too. Not just my protagonist household, but all the other sims live their lives just as well. They don't simply exist to give my protagonist a context.
3. It need not have great graphics, but I would like it if it is not text-only.
Does such a game exist? If not, I wish it did. It would be sort of like coming home to tv, except that I design the protagonist and can step in and keep the show from jumping the shark.