Do I finally updated my game!!! It was actually much smoother than i expected I was prepared than as I have mods and cc it'd crash but no! There was one issue where I could select objects/Sims but no options. It was cc related and I remove the mod. I have the extreme violence mod, and it works but the weapons don't show. Could they be accessories? I didn't see them in case...

You need to enable mods/scripts in the settings, and possibly restart the game.

Does that mean that the menu showing the cc list shows up? If so mods/scripts is enabled

If one particular mod isn't showing properly, go back and read through the info in the original download topic. Usually the creator says where to find the various items.